5 Unique Things about Grandparenting…

Parenting and “grandparenting” differ greatly as the generation gap between the guardian and the child differs in each of the cases. Parenting may involve (relatively) more contemporary ideas with increasing awareness of child psychology and exposure to updated information, while grandparenting is parenting that is dated, but NOT outdated!

The credits (or discredits) of my upbringing go to my grandparents, in greatest part, my grandmother. With my mother being largely away and travelling extensively due to work, she was responsible for many aspects of my upbringing including (but not limited to) my beliefs, general demeanour and aptitude in non-academic aspects.

That’s my grandmother and I- not a very recent picture, but one I can afford to share 😜

(My grandfather departed in early 2010 when I was 6 years old, taking part of me with him. Yet, allow me to use the present tense when I say “grandparents”) A letter to heaven was one of my first posts on WordPress, a tribute to my grandfather.

As a product of affectionate “grandparenting”, I am going to share with you the many privileges I had, that many of my counterparts under parenting did not enjoy.

Geoff Stamper often writes about his little adventures with his grandchildren and they often become his inspiration for reflective, good-humoured posts. That has made me wonder if I would have provided good content for my grandparents, if they had been bloggers…(🤔)

1. Growing up close to culture

It is no secret that children who grow up under their grandparents’ wings tend to be more culturally rooted. It held true in my case. In my formative years, they instilled in me faith in god, traditional and cultural values, spiritual knowledge, all of which became a part of me. They put me through classes that made me appreciate our culture- Shloka classes, Bhagavad Githa classes, Carnatic Music (South Indian classical music) classes, etc.. When I was 5, I won a state level Bhagavad Gita Chanting competition and over the years, have won a lot of prizes in music. It’s not about the accolades, but the learnings. They’ve helped me learn a lot and shall continue to enhance my life.

My Carnatic Music book from kindergarten. It was written exclusively in Tamil as I had not started learning English yet.

2. High EQ and maturity

I shall not claim to have any of the above stated. But I have no doubt that effective grandparenting instills maturity in abundance. Children raised by their grandparents, in most cases, grow up to be matured, empathetic and understanding. They are almost always precocious and are much ahead of their peers in terms of wisdom.

3. Empathy for the old and older

It’s much easier for me to find kindred spirits in the 70+ or 7- age group than among people my own age! Ofcourse, age is just a number, but being an old soul makes it easier for me to connect with older people, take from them what they have to offer and share with them my childish joys. I am a misfit among teens! I spend a lot of time thinking about the ageing, the ailing and the senile, which is because I saw my grandfather in his last days, knowing what was coming. He’d often tell me “his time was coming” and that prepared me for it when it came- yet, it was (and still is) painful. Experiences lead to empathy.

4. Closeness to family

Grandparenting involves a great deal of love and affection, a big part of which is having a good relationship with relatives- great-uncles, great-aunts, aunts, uncles (Different permutations of which cannot be translated to English). I spent a good deal of my childhood with my grandmothers’ siblings. Even now, they’ll be the first to know of any updates in my life and we visit them whenever we can. I miss living close to them, as we used to in my childhood. As a child, I always secretly wished (and prayed) that we lived in a joint family!

5. A balance of perspectives

In this global era, modernisation is inevitable. Grandparents provide children a break from the changing world and give them glimpses from the past and the best of the world that used to be. Hence, healthy grandparenting provides children with a healthy balance of perspectives from the bygone days and the days to come, for some values remain unchanged and timeless.

They taught me so much, yet they forgot to teach me how to live without their affection…

To all grandparents (or to-be grandparents) reading this, you’re the reason the Earth still belongs to the Milky Way! ❤️ (Who knows, decades from now, they may begin protests and get it to relocate!).

126 thoughts on “5 Unique Things about Grandparenting…

  1. I fully resonate with every word of this article. I liked this sentence very much…grand-parenting is parenting that is dated, but NOT outdated! Well said, Sahana! There is a unique relationship between grand-parents and grand-children. I personally think that’s very important in shaping your behaviour and attitude, and especially EQ. I really appreciate you and your attitudes and achievements made so far. Keep going, dear. Stay happy and blessed, always 😊🤗

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  2. Hi Sam, your post touched me deeply. I am helping my daughter raise her her as she is a single mother. I really admire your grandmother for doing that for you. Wonderful points.

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  3. You, young little old-soul (allow me this once to call you that ) — you are a blessing to all of us.
    You had a good upbringing and I adore what you say about grandparents. Your Empathy shows. As does your respect.
    May you continue to flourish through this lovely light that you are. Our world could use more like you.
    This old, old-soul is happy to know about you. So happy. Thanks for sharing. xoxo. I wish you miracles.

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    • At the brim of happy tears and a wide smile going from the left ear to the right, THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH for this really sweet, loving comment! That means sooo very much to me. You just made my day! Thanks a lot for all the nice things you say- I hold them so sacred to my heart. Once again, thank you dearly! Your comment warms my heart 🙏💖

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  4. In our culture, many kids not only miss out on grand parenting, but parenting as well. But we always had a close family. Similar to you, my grandfather died when I was 6 years old in 1964. The property was mostly farmland back then, and my grandparents lived in a little house next to our house. My grandmother did no like being by herself, so I slept on a cot in that little house until I was a teenager. My aunt came to live with her after that. I learned a lot from my grandmother, who lived to be 101. Our daughter is lucky, also, because not only did she have both sets of grandparents growing up, she also got to know her great grandmother as we all lived on the same property until my grandmother and aunt moved to Kansas in the early 1990s to a more accommodating city (our property in the country was not close to services my grandmother and aunt needed).

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    • Wow, that’s a really fascinating account! It must be a special privilege to get to see your great grandparents. 101 is a great many years and I’m sure you cherish her as much as ever. Thanks a lot for reading and sharing this interesting snippet… 🙏😊

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  5. Dear Sam , how I soulfully concur to every single word you threaded as pearl to adorn a beautiful tribute to not yours but all the grandparents on mother planet.
    My upbringing was also done by my grandparents, I was 11 months old ,then. So I fully resonate when you say maturity is in abundance.
    Thanks for sharing this wonderful piece my dear♥️♥️💕

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  6. I never met any of my grandfathers, they were dead before I was even born. And my grandmother who I still used to see occasionally died earlier this year. She was wonderful 😪✨

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  7. This is such a heartwarming tribute to your grandparents Sahana. I agree with your thoughts. Grandparents are the foundation for bringing in stability and values in the life of grandchildren. Their abundant affection, gentle reprimand, unending stories, patience and the values they inculcate, go a long way in moulding the tender minds.
    Full credit to your grand mother for doing such an exceptional job of raising you to be a strong and grounded young woman. My regards to her. Always make her proud. God bless ❤️❤️

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    • Now, that is a very wise, thoughtful comment, just as always, mam. Your reflections are so profound. Thank you so so very much! I shall convey this to her. 🙏💖

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  8. Wow, love the sentence “grandparenting is parenting that is dated, but NOT outdated!” Sam, that’s so cool. Love your affectionate post and tribute to your loving grandparents. Yes, as parents become increasingly busy with their careers, grandparents are indispensable in children’s life. Even in the future, when AI has stepped in to take charge of many of our daily activities, grandparents are not going to be out of date. Never. Grandparents are the best. Still, I have to say my own grandparents didn’t love me as much as your grandparents, but I respect them all the same.

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    • Thank you so so very much for your wonderful comment. I am so sorry your grandparents did not give you the affection you deserved, but I am sure they loved you all the same. I agree that grandparents will never go outdated, even in the days of AI. Thanks a lot for commenting! 💖

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  9. Well said. Grandparents help in keeping you attached to your roots and be grounded. They teach you, love and compassion. They teach you values. They are like a bridge between old customs and traditions and values and modernity for the new generation. Children who are raised among grandparents or in a joint family are more likely, to be honest, kind, and humble.

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  10. The photo of you as a baby being held by your grandmother reveals so much, you look happy and content as she gazes at you with all the love and adoration in the world. What a beautiful bond, and your post really captures that meaning. I believe families are designed to be multigenerational and it’s truly a loss if those ties are severed.

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  11. I am obviously a big fan of this post (thanks for the shoutout!). The joy so evident even in a photograph of you and your grandmother is heartwarming. And you most assuredly did provide great content for your grandparents well beyond the confines of WordPress!

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  12. This is such a beautiful tribute to your grandparents and grandparents everywhere. So loving expressed, Sam. I would love to hear you chant the Bhagavad Gita. How amazing and lovely. Have a blessed week, my dear friend. 🙏💙

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  13. wow, Sam, what you have written is quite true. Grandparents hold a unique part in who we are today. I still cherish how my nani used to tell me tales from religious books.
    I myself tried to read the English version of bhagvat gita, spanning over 1000 pages, but I quit it midway😲 It was getting too long, plus I didn’t agree with most of what was written.

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    • Thanks a lot for your comment, buddy! Now, THAT’s the way to read the Bhagavad Gita- To be read and interpreted by oneself than having it preached by someone in the way THEY comprehended it. It is perfectly fine to agree, disagree or have questions about it. Thanks again! 😁

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  14. My grandparents love is world’ s best paradise love younger time I enjoyed it 👌🌷🙏♥️
    Now I’m grandma and the same grace love I giving my grandchildren 👍🏻😊♥️
    This is the eternal love every grandparents and grandchildren’s special now and then 🌷🙏🌷

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  15. I lived very far away from both sets of grandparents. I felt closer to my mother’s family, because we visited there more often.

    I got to live close to some of my grandchildren for about 8 years, then we both moved. My other grandchildren were born after that and they were far, but now are very far. I am working to stay connected with them.

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  16. This is such an amazing post. I can’t even find the right words to describe how amazing this post is🌺. But I’ll start with this:
    1)The pictures (especially the first one) are amazing🌺✨.
    2)”It’s much easier for me to find kindred spirits in the 70+ or 7- age group than among people my own age!” – This line is legit so relatable, it’s unexplainable👌🏼👏👏
    3)”…grandparenting is parenting that is dated, but NOT outdated!” – very true✨❤
    Once again, this is an amazing post❤. My sincerest condolences for the loss of your grandfather. He may have passed on but I’m sure he lives on in your heart. Amazing post❤✨🌺

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    • Your words warm my soul, my dear friend. You’ve just made my day! Thanks a billion for your lovely, thoughtful comment. It means a lot to me.
      You’re an old soul, too? 😀 How cool to know!
      You are so right about that. He lives on. Our dead aren’t truly dead until they’re forgotten by the living.
      Thanks again for taking the time to read and giving me your fabulous comment! 🙏💖

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      • 😂🤭Yeah I’m an old soul. Sometimes my mom even says I’m a little old woman trapped in a teenager’s body😅
        That’s so true🌺
        No,no thank you for sharing this lovely post❤

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  17. grandparenting is parenting that is dated, but NOT outdated!- I absolutely loved this! You have so much wisdom in your perspectives. I agree with you about how empathy for all ages, balance of perspectives and bond with family is cultivated with deep roots overtime with getting to be with grandparents.

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  18. Thanks for sharing this insightful and heartwarming piece. You’ve revealed a salient factor that makes you wise beyond your years. Your grandparents have been such a positive influence and it’s really lovely to see it. You won a state level competition at 5! Really impressive feat. I just know the future holds so much promise for you. 🖤

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    • As always, your comment warms my heart, my friend! Wise beyond years- I can’t claim to be that just yet 😜 I have a more than fair share of immaturity lol. Thanks for your encouraging comment and constant support. I appreciate you a great deal. Thank you so much! 🙏🤍

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  19. What a beautiful tribute to your grandparents!
    My husband was raised in the same house with his grandparents. The stories and relationship he had with them are so special.
    Also, I know this is not the main point of your post, but that is awesome that you won a state competition!

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  20. Getting grandparents and their love is special in life. I’m a lucky one who enjoyed their love, their blessing in my life. Your blog again memories me those days,. Thank you 💖☺🙂🌹💓

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  21. Fully agree…that’s why I am so glad my son gets to grow up near his grandparents. Of course the flip side is all the TV and chocolates and toys that we have to keep reminding his grandparents not to spoil him with!

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  22. Sahana, such a beautiful tribute to grandparents! Have you shown it to your grandmother? I am sure she is very, very proud of you and rightly so.
    I have told you earlier, you have a very mature head on young shoulders. Wishing you love, happiness, contentment in abundance. Stay blessed, beta.

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    • Thanks a lot for your lovely comment! 🙏
      If that’s you in your profile picture, forget grandma, I wouldn’t have even guessed you were a mother yet 😉 Where did you find the fountain of youth? I won’t tell anyone, I promise 🤫

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      • Lol, I love your personality!!! My oldest is 31 with a 12 year old son. You’ll find post and pictures of all of us through out my blog. They are my inspiration, I write a lot about family and my experience as a single mother. Thanks for the sweet compliment.

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